23 September 2025
In a world filled with pain and betrayal, the act of forgiveness often feels huge.. gigantic. It’s a choice that can lead to extreme healing, not only for the person being forgiven but also for ourselves.
Holding onto anger and resentment can be exhausting. Each unresolved issue becomes a weight on our shoulders, draining our energy and hindering our ability to move forward. Whether it's a betrayal by a spouse, deceit from family, or the trauma of violence, the emotional toll can be overwhelming.
Consider the story of Erika Kirk. She faced an unimaginable situation when the life of her husband was taken from her. Instead of allowing grief and anger to consume her, she chose to forgive the person responsible. This act of forgiveness was not just for the assassin; it was a means of reclaiming her own power and peace. I believe this is the hardest decision she ever made. But because she loved God and she knew that forgiveness is an act of obedience. She forgive.
Similarly, I choose to forgive those who have wronged me. Lies can shatter trust, and I understand that everyone is flawed. Feeling used by those close to us can be heartbreaking. By choosing to forgive, I free myself from the chains of betrayal, it allows me to heal and perhaps rebuild those vital connections. Letting go of this hurt, I create space for healthier relationships.
Forgiveness is a gift I give to myself. It’s a step toward my story
Is there a benefit if we exercise forgiveness?
The answer is “YES”.
It brings emotional freedom. Forgiveness releases the grip that past grievances have on us. It allows us to live more freely and joyfully. It will improved relationships. When we forgive, we open the door to healing our relationships. It encourages understanding and empathy, paving the way for reconciliation.
We choose to forgive not just for others, but for ourselves. Forgiveness is not an easy path, but it is one worth taking. Forgiveness is seen as a way to release oneself from the burden of anger and resentment. Ephesians 4:31-32 encourages believers to get rid of bitterness and to be kind and compassionate, forgiving each other just as Christ forgave them. Forgiveness is restoring broken relationships, both with others and with God. It allows reconciliation, healing and reflecting God's love towards people.
For a better mental health. Research shows that forgiving can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, leading to a more fulfilling life. These journey of forgiveness often leads us to greater self-awareness and resilience. It teaches us compassion, not only for others but also for ourselves.
Acknowledging our feelings is the start by recognizing the pain and anger we feel. It’s essential to process these emotions before moving forward. Consider how holding onto anger affects our life. Reflecting on the positives of forgiveness can motivate us to take that step. Let the person know that you choose to forgive them. Communicate to them. This can be a powerful act of closure.
We choose to forgive because Jesus commandment is to forgive. In Matthew 6:14-15, He states that if we forgive others, our Heavenly Father will also forgive us. Jesus exemplified forgiveness, even in His final moments on the cross, where He prayed for those who were crucifying Him (Luke 23:34). This act serves as the ultimate model for Christians to follow.
Sometimes, the journey to forgiveness is challenging. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or professionals who can guide us. Practice self-compassion, understanding forgiveness is a process can help. Be gentle with ourselves as we navigate this journey.
Choosing to forgive is also an act of obedience to God's will. Colossians 3:13 urges believers to bear with one another and forgive grievances, emphasizing that forgiveness is part of our faith.
Forgiveness is not just a one-time act but a continual process that transforms the heart. It aligns our attitude with God's grace, mercy, love and compassion.
As we reflect on our stories and the stories of others, like that of Erika Kirk, we find strength in vulnerability and hope in healing. Choosing to forgive is a vital expression of faith that reflects God's love, promotes healing, and fulfills Jesus teachings.
