Maybe we have experienced some other loss in our life, something of value, something that is important to us, something that has meaning to us. If so, it is okay to grieve! It's okay TO WEEP! 

God has wired us to be emotional beings. We are not robots. It is right for loss to affect us on a personal, emotional level. As the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:4, there is a time to weep. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5).

When we experience troubles, do not be someone who always wants to blame others. I know that it is human nature to want to point the finger and to lash out at somebody else when we are in trouble or when we have experienced loss.

In fact, I think blaming others is just part of our fallen fleshly DNA. If the problems we are experiencing today are our fault, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY and do not blame others.

Sorrow has its place and its time, but there is also a time for it to end and to be replaced with something else.

It is all right to weep, but when we are done, we need to strengthen ourself. It is all right to grieve, it is all right to express those emotions, but when we are done, we need to STRENGTHEN OURSELF in the Lord.

We need to connect with God in whatever way we find is best for us. If it is lifting our hands and worshiping Him, then that is what we should do.

If it is getting into His Word (which I would suggest for everyone) and spending time feeding our spirit, then do that. If it is reminding ourself about how God has helped us in the past, we need to do that.

1 Samuel 30:8 tells us what David did next as He sought to deal with the troubles that besieged him. After grieving and strengthening himself in the Lord, here is what he did, So David inquired of the LORD, saying, “Shall I pursue this troop? Shall I overtake them?” And He answered him, “Pursue, for you shall surely overtake them and without fail recover all.” And so let us INQUIRE OF THE LORD. 

If we want to start over we need to recognize our regrets for what they are. Don’t dwell on our regrets. Up to a point, mentally rehearsing something that happened might be helpful to us. We want to learn from our regrets so it’s good to analyze and try to understand what really happened. Don’t hide from our regrets. What may be more dangerous than thinking too much about our regrets is not thinking about them at all. That is a huge mistake! In many ways, we try to ignore or escape from our regrets. We don’t face them at all – or at least we don’t face them truthfully. 

Do face our regrets head-on. If we have been dancing around our regrets, trying to pretend they’re not there, or given our regrets so much power we can’t even see them plainly, we’ve got to stop. We can’t change what happened in the past, but we can change what we do in response from here on out. Our choice of response is all-important for our future. Never doubt this: God does not want to leave us crushed under the weight of our regrets. That’s why we have to ask God to give us the courage to face our regrets and stare them down until they lose their power over us. When we do that, our regrets won’t be a finish line, they’ll be a starting line!