1 July 2017 @ 08:01

Because whatever we pay attention to is going to grow. If we pay attention to our garden, it’s going to grow. If we pay attention to our kids, they’re going to grow. If we pay attention to our friendship, it’s going to grow. If we pay attention to our work, it’s going to grow.

What is the greatest gift of love? It’s not diamonds, flowers, or chocolate. The greatest gift of love we can give is focused attention. We can affirm people just by looking them in the eye, which essentially tells them, “I value you. What you have to say is important to me because you matter to me.” What people want more than anything else is focused attention. They want to know that their thoughts matter, that their lives matter, that they are valuable.

The essence of relationships is not what we do for each other or what we give to each other. The essence of relationships is how much of ourselves we give to each other.

Kids/Children don’t need things; they need time. They want us! They want our time. They want our attention. They want our focus. They want to know that we think they matter. Nothing can replace time. Every relationships need time.

If we have to put it in our schedule, do it. If we have to make sacrifices, do it. Do whatever we need to do to give our relationships attention. It is essential to our growth!